The goal of my “Real Geek Moms” series is to show the world that moms can be geeky too. When you think of a mom, you don’t always wonder if they’re geeky, but you know what? They might just be! I’m here to let the world know that moms DO know what they are talking about. They can be geeky too, maybe even more than their kids! Plenty of mothers in the world love teaching their kids how to embrace their inner geekiness. I’m on a mission to find them! I’ll even talk to pet owners and how they like to embrace the geek with their pets. Prepare to meet amazing women all over the world.
Meet Nancy Maggs! Does she sound familiar? Feel like you know her? That’s because you sort of do! She’s the mother of Sam Maggs, who I interviewed for “Real Geek Girls“ a while back! How does it feel being the mother of a best-selling author? Check out the interview below and get to know a proud mother! You can follow her on TWITTER and TUMBLR.
What does being a geek mean to you?
It’s who I am and who I’ve always been. It was something I hid when I was young. I think we all have stories of feeling lonely, excluded or bullied at some time in our youth for being different or not popular.
But times are slowly changing and I’m thrilled that young people, both girls, and boys, can now be proud of that geek “label”. I embrace it! It can be wonderfully rewarding! I’ve discovered so many new interests and met the most amazingly talented people by proclaiming to the world – I’m proud to be a geek and a fangirl!
What’s your take on the fact that there are still people out there who think girls are being fake geek?
Frankly, I need someone to explain that to me because honestly after being excluded and ridiculed why wouldn’t you want to encourage people to share their geek interests with you. I don’t know every single detail or the canon behind every comic I read or movie I see, but that doesn’t mean I can’t be a fan of that particular thing! If you enjoy the minutiae, more power to you but don’t think for one minute that because I don’t have the same interest for detail as you that I don’t love the genre. There’s enough wonderful stuff out there for everyone.
What’s your job?
I’m a lawyer. I restrict my practice to residential real estate, wills, and powers of attorney.
How many kids do you have?
Just one. The very talented and amazing Sam Maggs and yes I am her biggest fan.
Are you married? How many years?
Yes! Met my husband at a university in a Family Relations class called Building a Successful Marriage! I kid you not! I was majoring in Sociology at the time. We were soul mates from date number one and we’ve been together ever since.
I never discuss the years whether in relation to time or age. To me, those are just numbers. It’s how you feel and how you spend your time that matters. You can be a fan of ANYTHING at any time in your life. Enjoy it, embrace it and if it makes you happy, it will keep you young!
What are your favorite hobbies?
Two summers ago Sam handed me the trade Batwoman Hydrology Volume 1 and the first Ms. Marvel comic with Kamala Khan and I became absolutely hooked on comics and graphic novels! And what a fantastic time to be a girl and into the genre! So many female –led comics to enjoy! I’m at my local comic book store every Wednesday and have my pull list of titles! My favorites – Ms. Marvel, Squirrel Girl, Rat Queens, Batgirl, Batwoman, Thor, Spider-Gwen, Black Canary, Silk, Lumberjanes, Gotham Academy, Bombshell, PaperGirls, Zodiac Starforce. I read them all and more! (Sidenote – Ms. Marvel issue 15 back page reader letters there’s a really nice one from a Sam Maggs writing about her cool mom who is now the MVP of the Kamala Korps – just sayin’)
In addition, to comics and graphic novels, I’m an avid reader of urban fantasy, sci-fi and, YA. My recommendations (in case you were going to ask) The Lioness Quartet by Tamora Pierce, the Paradox series by Rachel Bach, the Grisha Trilogy by Leigh Bardugo and a personal favorite The Long Way to a Small, Angry Planet by Becky Chambers.
I’m also currently taking tap, Pilates and barre at a local dance studio and meet monthly with a graphic novel group!
Do you have any favorite shows?
Well, now you’re in for a list because I love watching TV and my viewing tastes are all over the place. There are so many great shows right now! Current viewing – Arrow, The Flash, Agents of Shield, Gotham, Supergirl, Daredevil (are you noticing a theme here?) iZombie, Grimm, Reign, Jane the Virgin, Elementary, The Blacklist, Sleepy Hollow, Dr. Who, Game of Thrones, Survivor, Hell on Wheels, The Walking Dead. I’ll stop there, but I could go on! Except to mention can’t wait for season two of Peggy Carter!
Past favorites I’ll just mention two. In my opinion, the best show ever written – The West Wing, thank you Aaron Sorkin, and the start of my first obsession Stargate SG1.
Do you have any favorite movies?
All movies Marvel, Pacific Rim, Skyfall, all the Star Treks especially the 2009 one with Chris Pine and Zachary Quinto and the Star Wars movies(yes, my husband and I did see the first Star Wars movie in theatres A LOT and yes we have our tickets for opening day for The Force Awakens) I also like some of the non-action flicks. I recently saw Mr. Holmes and loved it and let’s just put it out there – Magic Mike XXL. On a serious note, I just saw The Suffragette last week and honestly, this should be required viewing for EVERYONE.
What are some of your obsessions? What makes you instantly geek out?
There are so many! My first obsession was Stargate SG1. (OTP Sam & Jack forever!) I was always a fan of Richard Dean Anderson from his McGyver days. (oh that mullet) My husband and I started watching Stargate and then got Sam hooked. The first convention Sam and I went to was a Stargate convention. And so my obsession with conventions began! It’s something Sam & I do together since we fangirl about a lot of the same stars and shows but that’s not to say I wouldn’t go to one alone if the right convention came along and she wasn’t able to go! I LOVE going to conventions. The panels are great for seeing the stars I geek out over. You get to share a few words over an autograph. You get up close and personal during a photo op. The cosplay is amazing. Artists’ Alley is a treasure trove of fantastic artwork, crafts, comics and pop culture merchandise. But the best part of going to conventions are the other fans you get to meet that are JUST LIKE YOU. I have made friends at every convention I’ve gone to and through social media, I’ve kept in touch with every one of them. Don’t have anyone to go with? Go alone because there will be literally thousands of other fans for you to meet. Another big obsession right now – Mass Effect by Bioware. I have the trilogy and am playing the first game right now Badass Commander Shepard is the best! I just need more free time to play!
Honorable mention obsessions – coconut crème donuts, Sailor Moon (Jupiter is my fave), Train, the sound track to Pacific Rim and Survivor.
Up and coming obsession – Supernatural.
Your daughter, Sam, is a best-selling author who wrote an awesome book called, ‘The Fangirl’s Guide to the Galaxy: A Handbook for Girl Geeks’, how does it feel seeing your daughter become a best-selling author?
My daughter, the best-selling author. I don’t really get tired of saying or hearing that! And yes The Fangirl’s Guide to the Galaxy is an awesome book! Everyone should have a copy on their shelf! How does it feel? Absolutely amazing. I have always been proud of Sam and everything that she’s done and accomplished. Her father and I encourage and support but she’s done all the hard work to get where she is today.
I’ve read every article, paper, thesis and story Sam has ever written and I have always been a fan of her writing style and her humor. But Fangirl is very dear to my heart. It’s very much a reflection of who she is. I read it and see a lot of us in its pages.
Do you think parents should ever tone down their obsessions? Sometimes kids think their parents are embarrassing.
I think so yes. I would never do anything to embarrass my daughter, my husband or frankly myself. I don’t think extremes of anything are good. If you’re wondering if you’re going too far, ask. On second thought, if you’re wondering if you’re going too far, it means you probably are!
If you could be an Avenger, but with different powers and strengths then all the current Avengers, what strengths and powers would you like? What would be your superhero name?
What superpower would I like? I’ve ALWAYS wanted the power of teleportation. To be able to teleport myself and others through space. Not time and space (thank you, Doctor Who)…just space. I’ve wanted that ability since WAY before I became a superhero fan. I’ve wanted it since watching Bewitched on TV. (And yes, we named her after the star of the show – super geek) Superhero name? Something like Time Rider or The Dark Traveller!
Would you ever write a book?
Would I ever write a book? If the idea was there and I could quit my job – I’m in!
You’ve really shown that a mother can not only be geeky herself but can teach their kid to embrace their inner geek, what’s your advice to all the mothers out there who don’t feel like they should embrace their inner geek or their kid’s inner geek?
The first thing that popped into my head on reading the question – Why wouldn’t you? By not embracing your own inner geek and encouraging your kids’ you’re missing out on an amazing opportunity.
To be serious for a moment, every parent should embrace their child’s interests – regardless of what that interest happens to be and whether or not it falls into the “geek” category.
Be supportive, encourage the interest and share in their excitement. If it happens to be geekdom and it’s something you thing you’re not into, give it a chance. Take the time to discover why your child loves the things they do. You may be surprised how easily you will succumb to the dark side!
Should you embrace your inner geek? Absolutely! If it’s hidden inside, then it’s part of who you are. Don’t hide the things you love, because the reality is – EVERYONE has things they geek out about. You are not alone.
And just think, by embracing your inner geek you get to share the things you love with your children; and some of those things they will probably love too. They will add other interests as they grow and some of those you’ll probably love as well. Then look at all the wonderful experiences you can have with your kids sharing these loves together! Going to conventions and sharing a photo with Jason Mamoa, binge-watching favorite TV shows like Supernatural and Cowboy Beebop and fiercely competing around the track in MarioKart. Oops, I just threw my life in there didn’t I? But you get the idea!
My advice – embrace it, own it, be a part of your children’s’ lives. Your life will be fuller, more fun and NEVER BORING!
A final thought from Nancy: I’m not a geek mom. I’m a geek and a fangirl who is ALSO a mom. I passed some of my loves to Sam as she was growing up and it gave us a world of things to enjoy and experience together. Now that she’s grown up, she has given back to me a whole new world of wonderful things to love and share. And the adventure continues!